st, I’ve always wondered what “it” is, well this is “it’. I’ve had “it”.  Sick kids, work demands, half done house projects, an absolute disaster zone at home and a partner who needs more from me. I know you have felt one or more of these sentiments. How do we overcome them without sacrificing ourselves? We must prioritize the things that are most important for us. We can only care for sick kids, if we aren’t sick. We can only give more to a partner if we’re getting more as well. So how do we get this? We take a break. We tell our partner, not ask. We say “I’m going for a walk, alone. I’ll be back in a little while.” and we go. Because all too often, as moms and wives, we ask. We think we’re respecting our partner, but are we getting that back? Do they ask to go outside to cut the lawn? Do they ask to go to the hardware store? Do they ask to watch the football game in the living room? This is them, filling their cup, and we are happy to oblige. But we must demand reciprocation. So next time you need to get groceries, grab the keys and say, I’ll be back from the grocery store soon, and go. I promise, they will figure it out. 
Call to Action
We have to be the ones to demand self-care because no one else is advocating for us. We must incorporate actionable things into our lives in order to take care of ourselves and alleviate the burden that life sometimes brings. 
Struggling with email maintenance?
Create folders (high, medium, low priority)
Commit to checking email 1x, 2x, 3x daily. Don’t burden yourself with constantly checking
Take email notifications off your phone/designate important contacts only come through
Laundry piling up?
Designate tasks. My three year olds can take clothes out of the dryer, so that’s what they do. My five year old puts everyone’s clothes in the washing machine and adds the detergent.
Forget washing by colors. Start washing by person. My son’s clothes get washed one day. My daughter’s another day. Mine is a different day. 
Struggling to keep up with activities during the week
Sunday reset is a thing! Not the tik tok mom resets we’d all love to be able to do. But an actual Sunday reset. Send everyone to their room, the play room, outside, wherever so you have an hour to reset. Make sandwiches for the week for lunches, meal plan, write your calendar for the week/month. Prioritize your weekly needs.
I know that sometimes, things like this don’t feel possible. But you were not put on this Earth to serve everyone but you. You can serve them and yourself. It’s not one or the other. You matter too.